Bunga IrawanGrief is like a heavy cloud that sometimes covers our hearts when we're sad or when we miss someone we care about. In Islam, it's completely normal to feel this way because our religion recognizes that life has its ups and downs.
Understanding grief in Islam
When we are grieving, it is easy to feel angry, confused, and lost. We may question why Allah has taken our loved one away, and we may find it difficult to believe that anything good can come out of this experience. However, Islam teaches us that even in the darkest of times, Allah is with us. He is the One who gives us strength to endure our grief, and He is the One who will eventually heal our broken hearts.
Islam teaches us to be patient during tough times. It's like taking a deep breath and telling ourselves that, even though it hurts, we trust that Allah has a plan for us.
Seeking comfort in prayer
When we pray, it's like talking to Allah, our Creator and Comforter. Praying helps ease our worries and gives us strength to face our grief. This can be a great source of comfort and strength during difficult times.
When we are grieving, we may feel a lot of different emotions, such as sadness, anger, guilt, and loneliness. Prayer can give us a safe space to express these emotions without judgment. Prayer can help us to focus on the good things in our lives, such as our loved ones, our faith, and our hopes for the future. This can help us to accept the reality of our loss and to find peace in knowing that Allah has a plan for us.
Reciting Qur’an verse
The Quran is our guide in life. Reading verses from it can bring peace and understanding during difficult times. It contains many verses that talk about Allah's mercy, forgiveness, and love. These verses can remind us that Allah is with us during our time of grief and that He will never abandon us.
For example in Surah Al-Baqarah verse 156: "And surely We will test you with something of fear and hunger and loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, who, when disaster strikes them, say: 'Indeed we belong to Allah and indeed to Him we will return.'”
journaling
Grief often comes with a whirlwind of emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion and guilt. Writing allows us to express our emotions, thoughts, and memories in a private and reflective way. This provides a safe space to release these emotions without judgment. Please see below the journaling prompts to cope with grief:
- How has your life changed since your loss?
- What have you learned from your grief journey?
- Describe a time when you felt a glimmer of hope or happiness since your loss.
Acts of charity
When you're grieving, it's normal to feel lost and overwhelmed. But volunteering can give you a sense of direction and purpose. By focusing on helping others, you can find fulfillment and meaning in your life. Grief can also be isolating, but volunteering can help you connect with others who share your values. This social support can provide comfort and a sense of belonging. Giving to charity, Sadaqah, or doing good deeds in memory of your loved ones can also bring comfort and positivity. It's a way to honor their memory and make a difference in the world.
Finally, helping others can be emotionally healing. It reminds you that even during your own pain, you can still make a positive impact on others.
Do what we love
Focusing on something positive and enjoyable can help shift our attention away from our sorrow. You know, doing what you love can make you feel less stressed and more relaxed, which is super important when you're dealing with the anxiety that often comes with grief. Islam encourages believers to appreciate the beauty of Allah's creations. Engaging in activities you love, such as nature walks can help you connect with the beauty of the world around you, reinforcing your faith.
Grief often disrupts daily routines and can turn your world upside down. Pursuing your passions can help restore a sense of normalcy to your life. It reminds you that life goes on, and you can find moments of happiness even during challenging times.
In the midst of grief's darkness, it's natural to search for a glimmer of light. Remember that grief is a journey, not a destination, and it's okay to feel lost or overwhelmed along the way. Yet, as Muslims, we are blessed with a guiding light to navigate the darkest of moments: our faith. It's important to understand that healing takes time, and it's a unique journey for each person. In the end, may you find peace, healing, and the strength to continue your journey with faith and hope as your companions.